When should I sleep with him?

I currently I have a dilemma about when is it  okay to sleep with a guy.  I have always liked to wait a bit before giving up the cookies. I read an article in a magazine once that said, a girl should wait at least  30 days before having sex with a guy. The first thing is that a GOOD mind blowing F**k can have you thinking that you are in love. Yes, because you want more and more.  And then is the remorse the next day, the guilt trip that follows you around because you really liked the guy but he is  not calling you back. Girls, love creating imaginary love stories, I been there.  Just because a guy is charming and apparently everything you want, does not make him THE ONE.

My best friend Jessica always told me that it does not matter when you sleep with a guy, if he wants to be around he will be around. I have got a lot of feedback from my male friends and most of them don't care if the girl sleeps with them on the same night. But then again I have others that say that she is automatically a slut and deserves no respect.

Here is what I think.  Sex is an extremely important part of a relationship. It is the closes and the most intimate connection between two people.  Sex is great and should be enjoyed to maximum. But then you get stuck with the bad sex. Oh lord, help me.  So I met this guy super nice and I really liked him.  All American White boy, smart, cute, sweet and very ambitious.  Oh the sexual tension was huge and uncomfortable. So I gave it up, what a disappointment. His penis was long and skinny, I called it the pencil.  I was traumatized after that day. I didn't feel any pleasure, it anything it was painful because it was long. I felt like my vagina was being poked and punched.  Oh but I took it like a warrior, and didn't complain.  He obviously liked it because he kept calling me and wanted to see me.  I had no intentions of ever seeing him again but I gave it another try. I realized that if I took control of the situation it was not as bad, I just had  to work it. I honestly think I could had saved me such a bad experience if I had slept with him right there and there. Since, I already liked the guy it was hard to turned him away.

I have always wanted to walk in a bar have a couple of drinks and take a guy home. I am not that bold.  Every time I have it in my head,  I chicken out.  Also, I have stopped a few guys just right before. I am like top-less saying no I can't.  I usually tell them I am "spotting" or I will push back my wax day just before my date so I can say no.  I once turned down this Indian guy I really liked. Damn! I told him no just right before and I regret it because I have always wonder if he was good in bed or not.

Then again I stand before my values everything my mom and dad raised me to believe and sleeping around is not one of them.  My longest relationship was 2 years on and off and I never had sex with him. I had sex  before but I was not sexually attracted to him. We were more like friends. I think about it and it is crazy.  I was in a relationship just to not be alone and I was not happy.

I used to work with a guy who slept with his wife on the fist night they are happily married for over 5 years now. But that is the exception to the rule.  If you have ever read my blogs before you know about Bob I made him wait a bit before giving up and that didn't make me a better girl in his eyes.  I think that you should do whatever you feel is right at that moment. If you are fuc**g  the same night. I hope he took you on the best date ever. Roses, chocolate, open the door great dinner or amazing random thing. Like going above and beyond for you. No dull moments during this date and you guys are like lost soul-mates.   Not like taking you to coffee and 10 minutes later you are all over him. My mom raised me to believed that you only regret the things that you don't do because you, learn from your mistakes.  I hate the feeling of what would had happen.  I will reserved my goodies to whoever I want but you best believe that if we are sleeping on the first date, he has "wow" me with the best date ever.

Moral of the story is we are all adults, you are old enough to make your decisions.  No one has the right to judge you. Only god


XOXO

ANDIE

Plain Jane.... Plain Andie

Who is plain Jane? And what is plain Jane. Plain Jane is the term to describe a woman who is simple, somewhat insignificant, her persona does not say much and she blends well amongst people. Blends so well that you can't really tell she is there. I am more like plain Andie. No, I do not have low self-esteem, nor I am putting myself down.

I call myself plain Andie, because there is not much especial about me. I don't have hypnotizing eyes, breath taking smile nor charming personality. I am average looking, unfortunately my most attractive body feature is behind me. My eyes are small and don't say much, I have perfect teeth according to the dentist but I don' t smile much. After having a conversation with me no one is going to be fascinated because my accent is so strong that is disturbing. I tend to be loud when speaking so, I am annoying at times. I do have an indoor voice but after I get comfortable I forget. When a man first looks at me it's like ok
She is.... Oh yea a girl! Nothing else. I am not exotic, I am short, I am thick (not fat). My personality is very strong, I am determine and very independent. I am a food nerd and food is what I cared about the most, so if a guy does not speak food we have a small problem.

Going back to my strong English accent. Not only do I speak horrible English, my grammar sucks balls! I have lived my whole life in the United States, I also have dyslexia. The only proof reading that I do is spell check. I am not an idiot. I read the New York Times every day(almost) just to know what happens in the world. Watching the news makes me depressed. I know a lot about history, culture and religion. I also have an intense knowledge of wine and liquor. Because I enjoy reading about it, but I am still plain Andie. None of these things makes me different then the rest of the women in the world. Oh and I often play dumb just to hear people speak of subjects I know a lot about or just because I don't feel like sharing my knowledge with that person. For some strange reason I enjoy when people think that I am not so smart, then in the moment when they less expect it I outsmart them. ( :-P)

Question?

What makes you so unique and different? Me? Blah! Of course, we all are different and unique in our own way. Every person has their own world, even knowing that we all live on planet earth.

I am going to take this back to relationships. I am the queen of singles, I rather be alone than in bad company. As I have said before I don't need someone to complete me because I complete myself. I just need someone to accompany me.

How does plain Jane find her dream guy? 9 out of 10 she wont. She will just settle for the best match. So here is my scenario. I work at x restaurant and one of the owners is like heaven sent, the man is beautiful, ( you can't base it on looks but he is hot) smart, successful, a vibrant voice and a look that makes you want to run to him and do dirty things. He is all that and I am on the other side melting inside each time I see him. I been working there for a bit over a year and this man has NEVER asked or has heard my name. And he has no need nor intention on finding out. He has said hi to me about 3 or 4 times and that's that. Why? Because I don't call his attention at all. I am simple, plain and boring looking. I am not saying to speak to me to flirt or because I awake any curiosity in him. Is just that I am not appealing. Do I make myself clear? Is like being in class for a full semester sitting two rows down to this really some interesting looking guy, he does not have to be hot for you to like him, he can just be charming. And maybe a year down the road you meet him again at your current work place a he tells you he does not remember meeting you ever! Ouch! That hurts but is just that he never care to notice you because there was nothing intriguing about you.

So here are the 3 types of men Plain Jane's end up with.

1. The looser: the man who a woman must be a babysitter to. By babysitter I mean you will be the one asking him did you eat? Did you shower? Did you pay the parking ticket? Did you walk the dod? Did you brush your teeth? Etc... Not only must you aak him to accomplish task, you must accomplish some for him. You must be after him for every move. He is constantly broke, expecting for you to resolve all his problems. Wants to be cool in front of the bro's, wear name brand clothing, drive your car like is his and expend your money. At times he can even verbally abuse you to make you feel less and that he is better than you. Why take all this? Because, you don't think that you deserve better.

2. The playboy: the charming guy who dates 10 women at a time. Tells you all that you want to hear. All the pretty, must amazing things. You walk on cloud nine. He is with you but also cheats. You allow because he always says sorry, he is the perfect man to walk around with. Good looking, smart and hot. But no good!

3. The nerd: out of all the 3 the best option lol. Plain Jane will end up married to a nerd who makes over $100,000 a yr. Will give you the nice house, car and yearly family vacations. And I think is safe to say that 8 out of 10 will end up with this nerd because is the best option. I know a few girls who end it up with "the nerd" not because of love but because it was the best man to be with. I don't agree with that, but to each is own.


I will continue to be plain Andie and in the search of real love. Even if is the nerd, love is a two way street. Only love if you are loved. To love alone is to dwell on loneliness. Muah!


Xoxo,

Plain Andie(lol)

What are you grateful for?

In life some times we can experience adversities that might lead us to great disappointment. But my question is do we let it take over our life's? In life you must be able to heal. To me we must embrace the good and the not so good. Do not waste time and energy dwelling on the bad and in what could have been. There is no need to sadden the past. Dwell in the possibility of a new tomorrow. The death of a fallen one is sad and heart breaking especially if is not expected. But don't spend your life depressed missing that person, thinking about the things that you could had said, done together. Remember only the good and be grateful that you had that person in your life.

In life we have to give thanks for the water that you drink, the food that you eat, the bed that you sleep in and for waking up to another day. Remember that not everyone can be have it. When you think you have it bad there are other people that have it worst than you. Give thanks for the little and not so little in your life. Do not hold on to the material things in life. Yes it is of great satisfaction know that you were able to buy those red bottom shoes or that computer that took a whole year of savings but if it breaks, do not hold on to it.

I am grateful for god allowing me to wake up to a raining morning at 5am, to being in in class at 8am, having to be at work at 10am. Working for 8-9 hrs, then going home to clean and cook, working on a project for my class, talk to my mother on the phone, and everything else that my day might bring. I promise you that today someone will bring the worst of me at work and when I get home my messy roommate will have the kitchen that I just cleaned before I left the house dirty. And yes, I will be irritated but I will brushed off, to the best of my abilities. I always try to keep my energies positive, that way I can attract more positive vibes to my life. We are all grateful for different things in life, but we must be in constant reminder of what it is. And remember that we receive what we give in life. Our lives are a product of what we produced. #justsaythanks

What a girl wants? What a girl needs?

I strongly dislike when I get approached by a guy who says " Yo! Ma', Wass up?  Urg! Yo! watcha name is? What kind of pick up line is that? And what language is that?

Do not call me Ma', Mami, Mama, Mamasita. I am not your mother. I find it rude and not appealing at all.  We don't know each other yet, therefore approach me like a "MAN" and ask me for my name.  Have you ever listen to that Luther Vandross song "Take you out"? That's the way you come up to a woman.  Worst is the woman who replies to this.  I  have a very strong accent but I can speak English. To me the whole slang and Ebonics are such a turn off.   I can't have a conversation with a man like that.  It is very annoying.  Also, please do not call me a female.  I personally find it disrespectful, and very unattractive. I feel that is like saying "hey human". Don't call me by my gender.

I get extremely intrigued by a well spoken man.  A man who can carry a smart conversation and can admit to unknown subjects.  It is so pathetic when a man or a woman have not idea of a topic and pretend they know and then make a fool of themselves.  Just because a man attended college it does not mean he is smart. I  am sorry, but a college degree does not guaranteed any intelligence. So don't be fooled! I have met many non-college graduates who are very smart. So smart that they have created emporiums out of just willingness to succeed in life. A great example is Bill Gates, but I don't know him.  Not too long ago I found myself on a date with a very smart business man. This individual never attended college, and yet manage to build a extremely successful company.  Thanks to the success of his company he has been able to travel the world as he likes.   Coming a crossed so many cultures, has really made him extremely interesting. To me all that knowledge just makes him sexier.

If someone says looks don't matter they are lying.  Appearance can possibility not be a priority but it matters.   When I say looks I don't mean 6'00 foot tall, blue/green eyes, perfect lips, irresistible abs. Girls, forget the Swag date a boy that is smart. A man who is not dressed with pants dragging almost to the floor, a t-shirt that is 3 sizes too large. Smiling with nasty gold teeth, yuck!  And the most annoying part wearing sunglasses at night time.  I wish I knew who came up with the brilliant idea of wearing sunglasses in door, I would shoot them.   For those men who believe that dressing and imitating the guys on rap videos; please stay away from me.  I think you all are morons.  Also, please dressed appropriate for the occasion. There is a time and place for everything. If you are going to brunch, don't dress as if you are going to a business meeting.  Every place has a dressed code, even if is not implemented.  If you are going to a nice restaurant, dressed to impress. During the day to breakfast nice polo and fit jeans will do great. It also goes for girls.

 I work at a hotel and a lot of the managers and executive wear business suits. But two always seem to get my attention. Very nice, clean, pressed suits. Not cheap looking just great looking.  Whenever they walk by, I feel as if I need to give them a compliment.  A man who is well dressed, smells good, good breath, hair is not messy, can very easily get my attention without speaking. 

Besides a well dressed  and  knowledgeable man, you need a man with values. To me life values are a deal breaker.  Family, friends, faith and life values.  I love my family, they are a very important part of my life, if not the most. Therefore, I want a man who has family values. Not a momma's boy but a man who likes to spend quality time with the family. Also if we are serious, a man who wants to be in a family of his own.  I adore my friends most of them have been in my life since I was in dippers. They are good and they are my shoulder to lean on. Ladies, a man needs friends too and if he does not have friends there is something wrong. I should be able to have girls night and he should also have poker with the buddies. Or what not. I am a woman of god, therefore I need a  man of god, enough said. A man without goals or ambitions is a dead man.  I personally refuse to be next to a guy who settles for less. I want a man with a positive attitude,  hungry for success and sets realistic life goals for himself. Is not all about driving the dream car and living in a mansion and being broke. Is about driving a good car, living in a good neighborhood and balancing the check book well and taking a good vacation. Have I made my point yet? Hope so.   

Girls you always need to know what you don't want, to understand what you want. How you want it and how you like it.  There is no satisfying others if you are not satisfy.   Please be smart when choosing your mate!!!!  

Xoxo 

Andie

Oh no, My favorite pair of jeans don't fit!!!

What do you do when you favorite pair of jeans no longer fit? CRY? SCREAM? STRESS? EAT MORE? NOT EAT AT ALL? HIT THE GYM?

I once, was somewhat fat. I was uncomfortable, unhappy, unsatisfied with my physical appearance. And my self-esteem was a roller coaster.  My moods fluctuated all the time.  It is very hard to look yourself in the mirror, and I feel ugly, disgusted and like a pig.  I am not attacking girls and boys who weight more than others. Beauty is what you make it. Beauty is whatever makes you happy.  I have met girls that are over 300 lbs and are the happiest. No joke and from them I learned self love.


Your inner beauty is the most important one. You need to treat it as one of your most precious treasures, because it is.  Most times your inner beauty begins with your outer  beauty and vice-versa.  Example, there are mornings that I don't feel so great, I wake up and feel like sh!t.  So I shower dressed pretty, do my hair, put on a bit of makeup and I feel just a bit better.  I can just go to pick up a few groceries and put on nice high red pumps.  I will most likely get a few compliments while at the store and their you go I feel better already.   A girl does not need an excuse to look at her best. Your outer beauty means nothing if the inner one is ugly and sad.  I might sound like I am contradicting myself but I am not. Is a two way street. At your worst times you must always look your best.  The world does not need to know that your life is falling apart, so keep it together.  And at the same time no one cares if your boyfriend cheated, cat died,  or you lost your cellphone. Sorry hon, is YOUR PROBLEM.  People just pretend to care and sometimes they can sympathize but at the end is all on you.  Therefore, try to always give them your best performance. Win your own Oscar.

Now back to what to do when you feel like is time for a change.  I am not a doctor and when I felt it was necessary for me to loose all my extra pounds, I took a visit to the doctor.  I got on this diet plan that for me was amazing it worked a miracle, I lost 35lbs. It was the hcg diet. It was hard but hard work pays off. Once I was done I felt good, my clothes looked great on me.  I was no longer the chubby friend.  I gained  self confidence, and pumped up my self- esteem.  I kept the weigh off but a about a year later I did the same diet again and lost 11 lbs more.  I was and am very pleased with it. Girls, when you don't like something change it. Always treat your body like a temple, because it is extremely sacred.  Watch what you eat, your permanent body marks, and everything that you do that can effect your body. Drugs are the enemy for the most past, unless you have an estrange diagnose and you need it to live. Try to find natural remedies to your pains and aches.  Be good to your body you will thank yourself later.

It is so important to be comfortable in your skin and walking in your shoes. Only you know yourself better than anyone else.  Embrace what you have, make the best of it.  If you feel that you need to drop a few pounds, do it.  But do it for you because is going make you feel better not to make anyone else happy. If someone loves you they will love you no matter what.  At times when people fall in love and are in long term relationships, they tend to let themselves go.  Sorry but that is a stupid excuse. And excuses are the tools of the incompetent. I for example try to look my best when I am in a relationship.  I want my man to look at me,  want me and desire me. Think to himself my woman is beautiful in every way, in and out.  I mention this before, have you ever wonder why an extremely hot guy is walking with a "big girl" or just a not so pretty girl? Easy, she is confident and she knows how to embrace all the beauty angles of her life.  Men love a confident woman always keep that in mind. Men also love a women who takes care of themselves.  A woman who eats well, does her hair, nails, well dressed and is well put together.

Talking about well dressed buy clothing that is appropriate to your body type. Not two sizes too small, not two sizes too big. Be smart when buying your underwear buying the wrong size SHOWS and it is not a good look. If you are a plus size buy from the plus size store or section of the store.  It is very unattractive to see women wearing clothes that makes it look like she is suffocating.  You can buy it  inexpensive and look good you, you can buy cheap and look cheap.  There is a  difference.  I love a bargain and saving money. The clearance section is my best friend, I do need time and patience. If you wear make up, do not look like a clown.  Youtube has one too many make up tutorial videos. There is no excuse to not looking good.

Now if you want to change you physical appearance. Create a game plan.
1. Target weight loss, or ideal size.  Something realistic.(example pants size 4, shirt small) Go to the doctor if possible and have him/her assist you with your weight lost.
2. Change the way you eat. Is not about being in a diet, short term diets don't work. Just start eating healthy. The web has unlimited resources on healthy yummy meals. Diets are not the enemy and they are not just limited to salads and grilled chicken. Eating healthy has lots of good benefits and it will sure help you feel better.  Each vegetable and fruit has a purpose and can help improve the way feel on the daily bases.  For example, I recently began to juice it and my migraines have decreased.  I have also reduce the amount of coffee I drink daily.  Used to drink 4 cups now, I only drink 1.
3. Giving up is NEVER an option. Your will power must be stronger than any tasty cup cake. I promise you at the end is all worth it. When I did the Hcg diet I was only allowed to intake 500 calories a day. Insane right? It was hard very hard but not impossible. And if I had to do it all over again, I would.
4. Fast food is the enemy.  The only fast food you should eat is a piece of fruit, or a Greek yogurt parfait.
5. Exercise. Walk, hit the gym or just follow a home video.
6. Once you hit your goal don't ruin it.  After working so hard to achieve your desire physical appearance do    not run to McDonald's or KFC.

Ps... Nothing is impossible if the mind really wants it.  Stop making excuses and fix what you don't like is only going to make you a happier person.

What is wrong with Andie?

So  my boss has a list of things he considers me and the reasons why I am single.
1. Low self-esteem
2. I can't cook
3. I am too picky, prince charming does not exist
4.  My standards are too high
5. Emotionally Unavailable (my favorite)
6. I am a lesbian (no no no, the penis is too good)

Now let me brake it down to you all. One I do not have low self- esteem. He assumes I have self-esteem problems because I don't date just any guy. I admire an educated man, a business oriented man, a man who as set, realistic life goals. A man that has strong family values ( not a mamas boy). Family values do have a lot to say about the behavior he will have towards you.  Always keep an eye on that.

Two, I have a Culinary degree I love cooking but I have learn from previous experience that some men want a do it all, instead of a girlfriend.  Yes I can cook once in while but not all the time.  I like to tell men I don't know who to cook therefore they won't expect me to slave for a 5 course meal.  In my book you have earn that.  And you earn it by respecting me, showing me that you care, a good morning, good night text can go a long way. One rose with love and care instead of a fancy bouquet just because you messed up.  So for the most part I tell them all I can do is make pastries, after all I am a pastry girl.

Three, my boss thinks I want a prince charming with a white horse and castle.(lol) No I don't. I just don't want a man who's pants are down to his knees. A man who does not know how to hold a knife and fork. It's not being picky is knowing exactly what I want.  A man that uses the "N" word in every sentence is not for me.  A man who says "wat chu mean?", "Wat chu is?", "were u stay at shawty?, "yo ma' wat ur name is?". And if you happen to refer to a woman as a female, "this female" just walked away because  in my book that is disrespectful.  NO! you are not for me.  I can not deal with the Ebonics and ratchetness.  I just can't my parents raised me to know better than that.

Four, my standards  are not too high. They are just well define and not negotiable.   This one totally piggy back rides on number three.  Women this day often make the mistake of  rushing to things because their biological clock is ticking, and very little self love. They feel like finding the right one is a competition.  I have a list made of the qualities I want in a man.  There is nothing wrong with that I think every single woman should have one. Very detailed.  And remember you want qualities not perfection.  If you feel like you have to change everything on this person, than move on to the next.  People just don' t change specially when they are older.  You are not his mom, do not allowed yourself to take her job full time. You are his best friend, lover,and partner in crime.   Remember that relationships are a two way street, and in that two way street love and respect are holding hands. My standards are up to my discretion and I can change them only if I feel necessary, and that is not to lower them.

Five, I am emotionally unavailable this one by far is my favorite. This man thinks that because the last man I dated was not so great I am holding on to that memory. Wrong!!! I like new beginnings, fresh stars. I can't judge every new guy based on the last.  Is not being naive but sometimes given the benefit of the doubt works.  If you rush to judge without circumstantial evidence you look crazy and insecure.  Be always 100% sure with proves in hands before you make your self seem like the psycho girlfriend/wife.
I met a guy a couple of months back he wanted to take me on a date and our schedules always conflicted so it never happen.  About a month  ago he text me and asked me to please go out with him to give me just one chance. So I said to my self I have nothing to loose so let's see.  The day of the date he asked me around what time should I pick you up? I said lets meet around X time in X location.  He replied about 6 hours later by that time it was around 10 pm no way I am living my house. I was in comfortable sleep clothing watching Law and Order. Still we could had possibility schedule another date.  But he text me and said "Hey!, My phone died, sorry how about you come over my house and watch a movie here? I never answer I was not going to waste my time. He text me again two days later and I still have not answer I like men not boys. Sorry I am not the lets fuck type, I enjoy respect! Yes some women still have self respect.

Six, I am a lesbian because, I am not sleeping with every man that wants to get in my pants. I mention before that if a man wants me to cook for him he needs to earn it. Well I will cook before you get into my pants.  I am a tough cookie and I am not cracking under pressure just because.  My body is a temple you must respect it before you enter it.  It is that simple!

Girls, do not let people bully you into what your future should be. My boss or anyone else can think whatever they want about my personal life.  I don't care I am old enough to make the decisions, I pleased.  I don't want to settle just to say I have someone.  And after all I enjoy being single I am  in not in a rush.  Miami is amazing to single people.

Ps. Do whatever makes you happy. Live life as you wish at the end of the day is your life.  No one but you is walking in you shoes, to understand your journey.


Muah!

Andie

Single...A choice or a condition

So, Valentine's day is approaching. Valentine's day a huge commercial day where people spend lots of money and say I Love You.  Flower stores and jewelry make tons of money. Restaurant are bombarded with costumers who want to eat lovely food, feed each other, drink wine, toast with champagne and eat bizarre desserts.  Victoria Secret releases a few cute intimate ware and girls just buy and buy.  Well my point is that Valentine's Days is all about spending money.  All of the sudden on this day people love each other more than other days. Why? Love should be an everyday thing. And every single person seems to want to find someone to share this day with. Being single is not a sin, being miserable is!

Here comes my topic Single by choice or condition.  I believe that, there is someone for everyone. The ugly duckling's, the grumpy guys, the nerds there is a match for everyone is all about finding them. I am single by choice because I refuse to settle for less. I know and understand what I am worth.  Growing up my dad always told me that I was his princess therefore the man becomes my husband has to make me his queen.

For some reason the man that tend to "hit" on me are so lousy, desperate to get in my pants, immature, needy and with no financial stability.  One I am not your mother, nor your dream babysitter. I love food! I have a culinary degree and I do enjoy cooking.  Here comes two, just because I can put a meal together does not mean, I am your personal chef. Three, if you want your laundry done call your mom or hire a cleaning lady.  Four, a sexual attraction between two people is great, but do not fu*k with your eyes.  Five I do not need a man to pay my bills, buys me things to buy my love or attention. But I want to be dine and wine.  The man  that I date must appreciate a woman who is confident, independent and free. A man that can accept my flaws and helps bring the best of me. I don't need a man to complete me. I need a man to companion me. I am not perfect, imperfection is  beauty.  I can adjust certain aspects of my life to make a man feel more comfortable around me but I can't change who I am for you.  I refuse to loose myself for someone else.  If anyone feels like they need to change their mate, than they have chose the wrong one.  Life is all about compromising, but too much of everything is poisonous to the soul.  (After a serious relationship is established I will make you dinner once in a while, earn it!)

Being single by condition is like a terminal illness.  Why? Because some people are so miserable, unhappy and pessimist that they can't seem to let anyone good into their lives.  Their vibes push away any human that wishes to interact with them.   Is not about your physical appearance, social status or religion.  How you ever wonder why the not so looking girl is married to a hot, smart, dream man? She has inner beauty, she is confident, she know how to embraced her flaws.  She knew how to make him fall in love with her for who she is not for what she looks like.  And that my friends that is something to admire.  If you spent your time dwelling on loneliness, on everything that bothers you, highlighting all the negative things around you and expressing all the things that you don't like, YOU ARE UGLY!  No one wants to deal with it, all man/woman that date you will eventually get tired and send you to hell.   Is like those girls that look good, and are constantly saying I am ugly, I am fat, I am this and that. STOP! You are what you think you are. In my mind I am a gorgeous  sexy woman.  If I don't say it I don't feel like. Is good to hear from other people, but must important from you.  Also, each time we see a great looking woman with a not so attractive man, it does not mean that he is rich.  A lot of times means that he took her to the right places, created amazing memories for her, gave her the attention no other a** **le did before. Gave her an ear and shoulder.  Gave her the opportunity to live a present and receive a future.  At the end of the day we all want to be understood, respected and loved. Once those are achieved happiness is a step away.  

Ps.  If is broken fix it, if not leave it alone.... To know what we want first, we need to know what we don't want. 

xoxo

Andie!