So, Valentine's day is approaching. Valentine's day a huge commercial day where people spend lots of money and say I Love You. Flower stores and jewelry make tons of money. Restaurant are bombarded with costumers who want to eat lovely food, feed each other, drink wine, toast with champagne and eat bizarre desserts. Victoria Secret releases a few cute intimate ware and girls just buy and buy. Well my point is that Valentine's Days is all about spending money. All of the sudden on this day people love each other more than other days. Why? Love should be an everyday thing. And every single person seems to want to find someone to share this day with. Being single is not a sin, being miserable is!
Here comes my topic Single by choice or condition. I believe that, there is someone for everyone. The ugly duckling's, the grumpy guys, the nerds there is a match for everyone is all about finding them. I am single by choice because I refuse to settle for less. I know and understand what I am worth. Growing up my dad always told me that I was his princess therefore the man becomes my husband has to make me his queen.
For some reason the man that tend to "hit" on me are so lousy, desperate to get in my pants, immature, needy and with no financial stability. One I am not your mother, nor your dream babysitter. I love food! I have a culinary degree and I do enjoy cooking. Here comes two, just because I can put a meal together does not mean, I am your personal chef. Three, if you want your laundry done call your mom or hire a cleaning lady. Four, a sexual attraction between two people is great, but do not fu*k with your eyes. Five I do not need a man to pay my bills, buys me things to buy my love or attention. But I want to be dine and wine. The man that I date must appreciate a woman who is confident, independent and free. A man that can accept my flaws and helps bring the best of me. I don't need a man to complete me. I need a man to companion me. I am not perfect, imperfection is beauty. I can adjust certain aspects of my life to make a man feel more comfortable around me but I can't change who I am for you. I refuse to loose myself for someone else. If anyone feels like they need to change their mate, than they have chose the wrong one. Life is all about compromising, but too much of everything is poisonous to the soul. (After a serious relationship is established I will make you dinner once in a while, earn it!)
Being single by condition is like a terminal illness. Why? Because some people are so miserable, unhappy and pessimist that they can't seem to let anyone good into their lives. Their vibes push away any human that wishes to interact with them. Is not about your physical appearance, social status or religion. How you ever wonder why the not so looking girl is married to a hot, smart, dream man? She has inner beauty, she is confident, she know how to embraced her flaws. She knew how to make him fall in love with her for who she is not for what she looks like. And that my friends that is something to admire. If you spent your time dwelling on loneliness, on everything that bothers you, highlighting all the negative things around you and expressing all the things that you don't like, YOU ARE UGLY! No one wants to deal with it, all man/woman that date you will eventually get tired and send you to hell. Is like those girls that look good, and are constantly saying I am ugly, I am fat, I am this and that. STOP! You are what you think you are. In my mind I am a gorgeous sexy woman. If I don't say it I don't feel like. Is good to hear from other people, but must important from you. Also, each time we see a great looking woman with a not so attractive man, it does not mean that he is rich. A lot of times means that he took her to the right places, created amazing memories for her, gave her the attention no other a** **le did before. Gave her an ear and shoulder. Gave her the opportunity to live a present and receive a future. At the end of the day we all want to be understood, respected and loved. Once those are achieved happiness is a step away.
Ps. If is broken fix it, if not leave it alone.... To know what we want first, we need to know what we don't want.
xoxo
Andie!
