What do you do when you favorite pair of jeans no longer fit? CRY? SCREAM? STRESS? EAT MORE? NOT EAT AT ALL? HIT THE GYM?
I once, was somewhat fat. I was uncomfortable, unhappy, unsatisfied with my physical appearance. And my self-esteem was a roller coaster. My moods fluctuated all the time. It is very hard to look yourself in the mirror, and I feel ugly, disgusted and like a pig. I am not attacking girls and boys who weight more than others. Beauty is what you make it. Beauty is whatever makes you happy. I have met girls that are over 300 lbs and are the happiest. No joke and from them I learned self love.
Your inner beauty is the most important one. You need to treat it as one of your most precious treasures, because it is. Most times your inner beauty begins with your outer beauty and vice-versa. Example, there are mornings that I don't feel so great, I wake up and feel like sh!t. So I shower dressed pretty, do my hair, put on a bit of makeup and I feel just a bit better. I can just go to pick up a few groceries and put on nice high red pumps. I will most likely get a few compliments while at the store and their you go I feel better already. A girl does not need an excuse to look at her best. Your outer beauty means nothing if the inner one is ugly and sad. I might sound like I am contradicting myself but I am not. Is a two way street. At your worst times you must always look your best. The world does not need to know that your life is falling apart, so keep it together. And at the same time no one cares if your boyfriend cheated, cat died, or you lost your cellphone. Sorry hon, is YOUR PROBLEM. People just pretend to care and sometimes they can sympathize but at the end is all on you. Therefore, try to always give them your best performance. Win your own Oscar.
Now back to what to do when you feel like is time for a change. I am not a doctor and when I felt it was necessary for me to loose all my extra pounds, I took a visit to the doctor. I got on this diet plan that for me was amazing it worked a miracle, I lost 35lbs. It was the hcg diet. It was hard but hard work pays off. Once I was done I felt good, my clothes looked great on me. I was no longer the chubby friend. I gained self confidence, and pumped up my self- esteem. I kept the weigh off but a about a year later I did the same diet again and lost 11 lbs more. I was and am very pleased with it. Girls, when you don't like something change it. Always treat your body like a temple, because it is extremely sacred. Watch what you eat, your permanent body marks, and everything that you do that can effect your body. Drugs are the enemy for the most past, unless you have an estrange diagnose and you need it to live. Try to find natural remedies to your pains and aches. Be good to your body you will thank yourself later.
It is so important to be comfortable in your skin and walking in your shoes. Only you know yourself better than anyone else. Embrace what you have, make the best of it. If you feel that you need to drop a few pounds, do it. But do it for you because is going make you feel better not to make anyone else happy. If someone loves you they will love you no matter what. At times when people fall in love and are in long term relationships, they tend to let themselves go. Sorry but that is a stupid excuse. And excuses are the tools of the incompetent. I for example try to look my best when I am in a relationship. I want my man to look at me, want me and desire me. Think to himself my woman is beautiful in every way, in and out. I mention this before, have you ever wonder why an extremely hot guy is walking with a "big girl" or just a not so pretty girl? Easy, she is confident and she knows how to embrace all the beauty angles of her life. Men love a confident woman always keep that in mind. Men also love a women who takes care of themselves. A woman who eats well, does her hair, nails, well dressed and is well put together.
Talking about well dressed buy clothing that is appropriate to your body type. Not two sizes too small, not two sizes too big. Be smart when buying your underwear buying the wrong size SHOWS and it is not a good look. If you are a plus size buy from the plus size store or section of the store. It is very unattractive to see women wearing clothes that makes it look like she is suffocating. You can buy it inexpensive and look good you, you can buy cheap and look cheap. There is a difference. I love a bargain and saving money. The clearance section is my best friend, I do need time and patience. If you wear make up, do not look like a clown. Youtube has one too many make up tutorial videos. There is no excuse to not looking good.
Now if you want to change you physical appearance. Create a game plan.
1. Target weight loss, or ideal size. Something realistic.(example pants size 4, shirt small) Go to the doctor if possible and have him/her assist you with your weight lost.
2. Change the way you eat. Is not about being in a diet, short term diets don't work. Just start eating healthy. The web has unlimited resources on healthy yummy meals. Diets are not the enemy and they are not just limited to salads and grilled chicken. Eating healthy has lots of good benefits and it will sure help you feel better. Each vegetable and fruit has a purpose and can help improve the way feel on the daily bases. For example, I recently began to juice it and my migraines have decreased. I have also reduce the amount of coffee I drink daily. Used to drink 4 cups now, I only drink 1.
3. Giving up is NEVER an option. Your will power must be stronger than any tasty cup cake. I promise you at the end is all worth it. When I did the Hcg diet I was only allowed to intake 500 calories a day. Insane right? It was hard very hard but not impossible. And if I had to do it all over again, I would.
4. Fast food is the enemy. The only fast food you should eat is a piece of fruit, or a Greek yogurt parfait.
5. Exercise. Walk, hit the gym or just follow a home video.
6. Once you hit your goal don't ruin it. After working so hard to achieve your desire physical appearance do not run to McDonald's or KFC.
Ps... Nothing is impossible if the mind really wants it. Stop making excuses and fix what you don't like is only going to make you a happier person.
