Just because you are alone, it does not mean you are lonely. I personally believe that you must learned to enjoy your own company, before you enjoy others. I am not saying to be alone at all times, but once in a while a moment to yourself is great. For example, relax watched a movie, read a book, go for a run, workout. There are many things that one can do alone and learned to enjoy it without the need to have someone next to you.
I am writing about this because I have a friend who I will called Jerry. Jerry can't stand to be alone, he is constantly seeking to find someone to spend time with him. He needs to always have plans to be with someone. He gets very intense and desperate to be with people. Why? I wonder why is Jerry so terrified of being alone? Insecurities. The fear of being alone terrifies him because he is an insecure man. He often says " I am a people's person, so I don't like to be alone". Bullshit,sorry! You are an insecure man. And the fear of being alone than later transfer to suffocating the people around you, and/or your loved one. Recently, Jerry and his girlfriend broke up. They were together for 3 months, lived together for 2, and now that she is gone he feels like a fish with no water. I met Jerry at work. After his girl left him he is constantly asking me to hangout. Always expressing how much he wants a new girlfriend because he is the perfect boyfriend. I don't know exactly why his relationship failed but here is a clue, he gave her no space. See here is the problem, since Jerry does not know how to be alone, I can guarantee you he always wanted to be with her and eventually she got fed up and said NO MORE! Being alone is NOT a sign of isolation, depression or sadness, is just time to relax, mediate find the voice inside of you. For so long I wanted to star a blog and Jerry was the perfect motive. Making my alone time useful makes me happy, being able to accomplish things without the need of having someone at my side. #accomplished
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