I love to listen to women speak about Mr. Right. To me the only Mr.right I know is Mr. Right now. What makes a men Mr.Right? Looks, money, social status, kindness, lust, demeanor?
I say "Mr. Right now" just because to me, the whole idea of it is an illusion. Most women spend too much time and energy looking for their dream man. Although I don't discard the idea of finding him exciting and romantic, there is no such thing as the perfect man. Nothing is perfect!
I think that when wanting to attract the man you desire you must be very clear to what you want. Because, things will only be right if you feel that they are right. For example, I will use me. I will like a man who is loving, caring, super romantic but not obsessive, to be financially stable ( not expecting him to pay my bills, I got them) open to learning new things, must love food, respect me, a true gentlemen, smart, good breath, impeccable hygiene, charming and has realistic life goals. Physical appearance matters but very little. I am not looking for Brad Pitt, ( I have a few requirements) but just someone kissable lol. That's the kind of man I want. If you think that I am asking for too much? Wrong that is just a short description. When someone says they don't have a type, is bullsh*t, everyone does. Whether is personality or looks we all do.
As I said before, it is only right if is right to you. Men can somewhat be related to a potty training, you must tell the child were is acceptable to pop and where is unacceptable. Well, you tell a man what is acceptable and what is not. Let's say that if he has a habit of lateness. You must stop him from the beginning, making it unacceptable. I can use me again as an example, ones a guy asked me out on a date and I chose to meet him at a nearby restaurant, he was late over an hour. While I waited for him I order an appetizer, an entree and 3 drinks. I finally order my meal to go finished my last drink, got up and left. As I was walking out of the restaurant, I saw the individual pulling in. I completely ignore him and left. He didn't have a valuable reason for his lateness. I feel that he abused my time and underestimated me. This man kept calling me and apologizing for his lateness. I said to him that his lateness was not acceptable, that I no longer had any intentions of seeing him. For some reason he did not give up without putting up a fight. Over a month after I gave him another chance and he wasn't as late. He was 5 minutes late, (I made him wait 10. The third time he was unbelieving early, so early that he had to wait for me. You must always put your foot down from the very beginning. If you don't like something do not allow it, point blank! And if he does not agree then move to the next. Whatever someone is not willing to do another will do better. Another scenario can be if you meet a guy he is charming, interesting and seems to be your perfect match but he smokes. You strongly dislike smoke and it makes you somewhat ill. Well it's easy tell him. If he really likes you he will definitely do everything in his power to stop smoking around you, to even stopping for good. But is within you to make it happen.
Now be realistic with things that you want him to change. By being realistic you can obtain a healthier relationship. Don't ask him or expect him to give up everything just for you. If he always expend Thursday nights with the boys watching a football or just at the bar let him, unless he is spending his whole paycheck or completely neglecting you. Give him his space! Also, appreciate the little and the big. Never settle for less but be grateful. For example, if he usually buys you expensive flower arrangements but one day walks in with one flower that he took from the neighbors garden just be happy about it. Do not star nagging about the fact that he didn't spend $$$ on flowers. Do not put a price on his ways to show affection towards you.
As I mention before you attract in a man what you want. Do not expect and man to take you serious if he meets you at a bar and you sleep with him the same night. Have standards! And yes there is the exception to the rule but try to always aimed for the rule not the exception it will save you tears and deception.
Moral of the story Mr. Right is what you make of it. In life we have choices and a woman has many. Do not dwell on why he is not calling you. Just move on because, if it was meant to be, then let him come to you. Play your cards right and you will meet Mr. Right. #love #mr.right #accomplished
XOXO
Andie
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