Emotionally bankrupt applies to someone who has been hurt one or more times emotionally. The disappointment was such an emotional disaster that the person decides build up a wall to protect their feelings. By doing this, the person will push away new loves, refrain from showing much emotions. And the moment that he/she feels that is catching feelings will automatically reject that new person. An emotionally bankrupt person is extremely cheap with the feelings. Just the though of a relationship makes them ill.
Symptoms in a male: sleeps with many women, promises much delivers little. Has no sense of commitment and anything that involves attachments horrifies him. Makes up excuses to why he can't be involved. Usually wants a girl to be around but will not make it his girl.
Symptoms in female: will also sleep around. Possibly consider or will become a lesbian. Compare every men to the one who broke her heart. Settle for a mediocre man. And will refer and treat every man as a dog.
I have been hurt a couple times, in past relationship. I have had bitter taste left, but I refuse to judge new relationships with old ones. I think that it will be unfair to me and that new someone. So what if I get hurt or disappointed. Just move to the next one wiser and stronger.
I have dated two emotionally bankrupt men. Bob was the first, a handsome man. Where ever we went girls will go crazy for him. Not only was he handsome but he was really charming, smart and always made me laugh. But when we first met, he told me about an ex-girlfriend that broke his heart and that he will never love again. This right here should had been my "q" to say ok bye. But in my head I was determine to change his mind. He was the total bring to home guy and he was Dominican my parents would had loved him. Bob was hang on dwelling on his ex and making sure that he didn't catch any feelings for me that, I was basically in a relationship alone. The only time I felt affection was under the sheets. Why, would I do that to my self? Things were always when he wanted, his way or no way. Never held my hand in public. I was settling for less indeed. And finally I realized that he was not for me. People only change, if they want. I always gave him my 100% and he gave me his 15%.
Second guy was worst because, I really liked him. Super nerdy looking guy, with a bright mind. My sorority sisters convinced me to not judge a book by it's cover. And I gave it a chance. His looks were not all that but after our first date he had me wrapped around his finger. At first it was great, almost everything I could ask in a man. A true gentlemen, great sense of humor, smart, a foodie, blah blah, but no room for someone like me. My dad has always said to me "you are my princess, whatever man you are with you must be his queen". One day he will treat me as if I was on top of the world, and the only person that matter was me and a day later was as if he didn't know me. He would really just stop talking to me, out of no where and truly will make me feel like crap! The first time it happen I blame me because I was unsure if I did something. So I got him to star talking to me again. Things were going great right before the summer hit, and we made plans to take a mini-vacation to Mexico. Next week comes and he completely stops talking to me a week later, he goes to Mexico alone. I felted a huge slap on the face without the hand. Oh boy! I drank tequila and listen to Adele. Said to myself no more! Bullshit, I am a woman. So we talked and here we go again. Once again things were going great, gave me the best birthday I could ask for. And then once again he completely pulled away from me. This time I really learned my lesson and said no more. Each time we were doing great he just abandon me without a saying. This man has nothing to give me emotionally. He is so afraid to be hurt, to get close enough to me and develop feelings that he rather push me away every time things were great. So I finally said no more I'm moving on and finding something new. I deserve better. I really got tired of his emotional roller-coaster.
Don't give your 100% to receive a 10% is not worth it. There is no reason to waste your time believing that you can change someone. Yes, at times we want to prove ourselves that we can change someone. Big error in order for someone to change they need to want the change. And if they really want to change then let them show you with actions not words. An emotionally bankrupt person carries such a strong will on not giving or showing love that makes them somewhat bitter. That high up wall they use to block their emotions does not allow them to be happy. At my young age I have learned to, live it, learned it and move on. To dwell in possibilities. If I star comparing old relationships with new ones I will never be truly happy. Let go of the bad old memories, remember the good, create new ones. If you remember the bad is to not let history repeat. Do not take the short-end of the stick. Do not expend time and energy on someone who won't do the same for you.
#movefoward #noregrets #love #live
great info
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