Conformity can be one of the most dangerous stages of life. When you get comfortable, you settle. Settling is great at times but settling for less is a major crime. Not really a crime but it should be. In life we should all have set goals, one bigger than other. Being happy and being comfortable usually gets mix up. But they are very different. When you are comfortable you are lazy. Once lazy you feel like there is no more to look for and that you are fine. Well wake up call, YOU ARE NOT!!!!!
When it comes to relationship, the most natural thing is to settle when you both realize that you want to be with each other. But there is the certain occasion that you settle because, you don't want to look for more.
Today I discussing this topic. More commonly seen in girls. Girls who have low self-esteem and always think that they deserve less than what they have. NO girls! You have the power and control to get whatever you want. But you must know what you want in order to be with that other half that you think is your Mr.Right now.
One no woman is ugly, she is just not fixed well. Girls, today is so easy and inexpensive to look good. Two your demeanor says so much of you. A man truly appreciates a woman who has character, who has confidence, and controls her own persona. A real man, will really appreciate this.
I have the perfect example to give you, almost all of us know that couple that has been together for many years, they always look great together but he won't buy the ring. Next thing you know they break up and 3 months later he marries another girl and calls her his soul-mate. Here the fault is all on the ex- girlfriend the one who gave him her best times. Once she felt they were growing old and a wedding date was not set, she choose to settle and stay quiet. I bet she told her self is okay, I know he loves me why sign a piece of paper. With a piece of paper you get benefits "lol" yes that big house or dream condo and the Mrs.Smith not "oh that't just his girl". Know your own boundaries! And once again know what you want. Settling is only fine it feels right to you. Ambition is not a bad thing as long as if is for your own good and it is going to help you better.
I know a girl who for some reason feels that she always needs to be in a relationship. From one breakup to the other. As soon as she breaks up with a guys she goes out hunting for a new one. She is a gorgeous, well educated woman. Her future looks pretty bright but her man choice, fogs it. Marilyn Monroe said once a girl does not need anyone who does not need her and that is so true. Being with a man just to say I have a man does not make you better. Knowing that you have a man that loves you unconditionally and goes out of his way to prove it to you, makes you better. It makes you better because, you are feeling better. Actions speak louder than words.
Another example, is that girl, who is the only one holding down the relationship. That girl that is busting her behind working to pay ALL the bills and then comes this guy thinking is he the best thing on earth just taking advantage of her. Why do women allowed men to use them. I know a couple in which the guy has been unemployed for about 2 years. The girl has 2 jobs and he sits home all day playing video games. Oh, and they have 4 small children. The money she makes is barely enough to pay the bills and put food on the table. What is wrong with this picture? A lot. I was raised to believe that a man will always do his best to provide for his family. I understand that a man can stay home to be a stay home dad. A stay home dad cooks, cleans, and takes care of his kids, not just sit in front of a TV all day. I find it hard to understand. I have a close friend who her and her husband are both stay home parents. They found a way to work from home, both doing different things. It brings money and it lets them spend time with their baby. Excuses are the tools of the incompetent. If there is a want, there is a way.
My last example of why having a medium when you can have a large, is the girl who allows a man to use her just for sex. Girls, please stop playing the barbie game. Have standards if a man is only calling you and using you when he is horny you are settling for less. I talked to girls who have told me " well at least when he is horny is me who he calls". I personally don't understand the friends with benefits thing, empty sex is so whack to me. But that is my opinion. I respect, to each it's own. If that is the case set the rules and don't fall head over hills over the guy. Once you guys have established is only casual don't star calling him, texting him, showing up to places you know he can be found at, and if you see him with another girl is not your place to say anything and it goes vice-versa.
Why have a medium, when you can have a large does not only apply to relationships. It also applies to life. If you don't like your job, or you feel that there is no room for improvement move on. If you don't like you house move. If you don't like your personal appearance, change it. If you don't like the adult you have become find a way to embrace it. Change is good!
ps. love you, respect you above all!
xoxo
Andie
Another example, is that girl, who is the only one holding down the relationship. That girl that is busting her behind working to pay ALL the bills and then comes this guy thinking is he the best thing on earth just taking advantage of her. Why do women allowed men to use them. I know a couple in which the guy has been unemployed for about 2 years. The girl has 2 jobs and he sits home all day playing video games. Oh, and they have 4 small children. The money she makes is barely enough to pay the bills and put food on the table. What is wrong with this picture? A lot. I was raised to believe that a man will always do his best to provide for his family. I understand that a man can stay home to be a stay home dad. A stay home dad cooks, cleans, and takes care of his kids, not just sit in front of a TV all day. I find it hard to understand. I have a close friend who her and her husband are both stay home parents. They found a way to work from home, both doing different things. It brings money and it lets them spend time with their baby. Excuses are the tools of the incompetent. If there is a want, there is a way.
My last example of why having a medium when you can have a large, is the girl who allows a man to use her just for sex. Girls, please stop playing the barbie game. Have standards if a man is only calling you and using you when he is horny you are settling for less. I talked to girls who have told me " well at least when he is horny is me who he calls". I personally don't understand the friends with benefits thing, empty sex is so whack to me. But that is my opinion. I respect, to each it's own. If that is the case set the rules and don't fall head over hills over the guy. Once you guys have established is only casual don't star calling him, texting him, showing up to places you know he can be found at, and if you see him with another girl is not your place to say anything and it goes vice-versa.
Why have a medium, when you can have a large does not only apply to relationships. It also applies to life. If you don't like your job, or you feel that there is no room for improvement move on. If you don't like you house move. If you don't like your personal appearance, change it. If you don't like the adult you have become find a way to embrace it. Change is good!
ps. love you, respect you above all!
xoxo
Andie
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